Why should anyone
else be the
Master of your Destiny?
It's all about you.
It's all about choices.
Some
people talk a lot about the kind of life
they'd like to have. Other people do something
to make it happen. Which kind are
you?
Deciding to Take a Chance on Yourself
About
ten years ago, a friend of mine named
Melissa made a decision that changed her
life. Her school counselor offered her
the chance to become an exchange student
in Europe. She would be living in Germany,
France, and Denmark, learning all about
each country's customs, meeting new people,
and picking up some of each language.
No one in Melissa's family had ever traveled
far out of the state they lived in. Her
parents were skeptical, and told her that
she should forget it-they didn't have
any extra money to help her with such
foolishness. In fact, no one in Melissa's
working-class neighborhood had ever considered
going to Europe. They just hoped they'd
have enough money to pay the rent each
month and buy groceries each week.
Melissa knew it would be easier to stay
home, to keep working part-time and going
to school part-time. "After all,"
she thought, "who do I think I am?
I really don't know what to expect. I
don't know any foreign languages. I'd
probably just make a fool of myself."
If Melissa went to Europe for a year,
she wouldn't be able to work, and she'd
be spending the money she'd worked so
hard to save. It would be her first time
ever away from her family and friends,
too. What if she got homesick? And the
thing that scared her most was that when
she came back from her adventure, she'd
be broke. She'd have to live at home and
rely on her parents until she could get
a job and save enough to move out.
Still,
she couldn't quite forget the idea. Why
shouldn't it be her? After going
endlessly back and forth, she finally
decided to take the risk. She could always
come back early if she hated it. She called
her school counselor, who was delighted
when Melissa said "Sign me up!"
The counselor was about the only one who
seemed happy. Melissa's family offered
no support, emotionally or financially,
and her friends just laughed when she
said she was going to Europe. They finally
realized she was serious when she closed
out her savings account and asked the
counselor to drive her to the airport.
"We'll see you in a couple of weeks,"
her dad laughed as she walked to the car.
Lessons
Learned
The trip began poorly. The airline bumped
Melissa's entire group, and told them
they'd have to wait until the next day
to leave. Although she had never flown
before, Melissa decided if she didn't
leave that very day, she'd chicken out
completely. She went from one ticket counter
to another until she found a connection,
spending 10 hours in the airport before
leaving on her first-ever flight. It took
so long and she was so nervous that she
began to wonder if she should have listened
to her parents and her friends after all.
When she arrived in Germany the next afternoon,
she was exhausted. She guessed that the
weird sleep-deprived feeling she was experiencing
was what people called jet lag. Oddly,
it pleased her somehow to know first-hand
what it was. No one back home knew what
jet lag felt like! She handed the address
of her new apartment to the taxi driver,
and paid him in Euros when he dropped
her off. Then she slept for a long, long
time.
The next
day, Melissa began exploring her new neighborhood.
She wasn't nervous at all. She found her
way to the nearest travel agency and bought
a train pass. Nearly everyone spoke English
and seemed helpful, and the trains made
it easy to get around.
The next
week, she ventured further-to Switzerland.
She went alone because the other students
in her group were apprehensive about traveling
outside the "base" country.
Melissa wasn't exactly radiating confidence
herself, but she wanted to see as much
as she could during her time in Europe,
and the only way to do that was to summon
up her courage and go. She loved learning
what was beyond the sheltered world she
had left behind. She found that all she
really needed was common sense and a map.
From then on, when Friday came, Melissa
was packing her bag for another destination.
She saw the ruins at Rome, the Eiffel
Tower, and even the great pyramids in
Egypt. Sometimes she felt like she must
be dreaming-that she'd wake up from this
new feeling of independence, freedom,
accomplishment and success. But she was
wide awake, and enjoying every minute.
Melissa's year of travel was a year of
revelation for her. As she studied different
cultures and met so many new people, she
realized she had always had an adventurous
spirit and a thirst for knowledge. And
if Melissa had decided to stay in the
US, she would never have met her future
husband. She helped him run his restaurant
in Berlin-a new enterprise they enthusiastically
shared, and with great success. They stayed
in Germany for another year before they
returned to the States. As it turned out,
Melissa was far from being broke!
So what's
the lesson here? People who don't take
risks don't go far. People who let others
make their decisions for them are rarely
happy. And fear is what keeps 99%
of people from leading fulfilled, successful
lives. You don't have to let that
happen to you. Figure out what you want,
and then go for it!
What
You Need To Know
You should
be steering your own ship. While there
will always be some factors that are out
of your hands, it makes little sense to
worry about what you can't change. Instead,
worry about what you can
control - you and your
actions and your thinking.
Points
To Remember:
Be
receptive to all possibilities. Most new
ideas sounded crazy the first time they
were introduced.
Fear
of failure can be very powerful. It can
cause you to stay in a rut, to procrastinate,
and to miss out on opportunities to change
your life. If you are dominated by fear,
learn to be brave.
Realize
that risk-taking is a necessary part of
success. Learning to negotiate risks leads
to more self-confidence and more triumphs
along the road to the life you would like
to lead.
Always
be on the lookout for new opportunities.
Define success for yourself. Most people
believe it's about finding inner peace,
satisfaction and emotional balance, as
well as financial stability. You can't
achieve those unless you start thinking
out of the box. You have to be willing
to take some risks. You must be willing
to step out of your "comfort zone."
This applies to business as well as to
your personal life.
Some
Of The Pillars Of Success:
Plan
your work, and work your plan!
Make
every effort to be the best you can be
at what you do. Don't compare yourself
to others. Set your own goals.
When
you make a commitment, stick to it!
Acknowledge
that disappointments are part of life.
Instead of allowing setbacks to keep you
from moving ahead, overcome them and forge
ahead. This will make you stronger.
Remember
that every experience, whether good or
bad, can be a learning experience. It's
all in what you take from it.
Live
each day as if it were your last; have
no regrets.
Some
Final Words
..
So
have you decided yet if you're a talker
or a doer? Do you wait
for things to happen to you at the whim
of others, or do you make
them happen? Are you just thinking about
how great your future could be if only...?
There is no better time than right now
to stop just thinking about making
a change that will secure your future
success and time. Right now is the time
to do something about it. Starting
a home based business is one of the easiest
first steps you can take to begin working
on your financial independence.
You may have heard people derisively say,
"Oh, she's only looking out for number
one." But be honest. If you don't
look out for yourself first, who will?
Are you ready to take control of your
own destiny-to look out for number one?
I can help you find the path to success,
but you need to make the decision to take
the first step down that path. Your first
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today. Like my friend Melissa, you will
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